3. (2) Children—well-pleasing to the Lord (Col 3:20). (J. Whatever your particular office be, you are privileged, so to speak, as altogether to forget your servitude to man, and to consider yourselves as performing the office of angels in the service of your God and Saviour. woman from him: man was made first, and then the woman; and the church members one towards another, for their mutual good and “Wives, submit to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord. All that evening the faithful wife sat in the gallery, that her husband’s quick eye might not miss her from it, bearing her pain like a martyr, and like a woman who loves. It is a sad commentary on our day that there is an urgent need to lift marriage out of the sitcom sewer and bring it into the bright, clear light of God’s glory. The injunction forbidding bitterness. 18 Wives, be in subjection to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord. III. Would he delight to make his servants happy; and would he consult in all things their eternal welfare? However, the final headship of the man has to be acknowledged. (a) The Divine appointment (Genesis 3:16). It may be exhibited in surly silence as well as in sharp words. Is the authority which you either obey or exercise, regarded as God’s? The woman"s husband is in subjection to the governing authorities (Romans 13:1); and to the needs of other Christians (Ephesians 5:21). I would assume that might be very possible. Habituate yourselves then to realize the thought, that it is Christ whom you serve, or in whose place you stand whilst others are serving you. Paul does not say as the complement of submission, “Rule your wives wisely, keep them in their position.” The rule of love is sweet and easily borne. If their husbands should strive to compel them to idolatrous worship they must resist (Acts 5:29). As a wife is bound to obey her husband in spite of his many imperfections, so the husband is bound to love the wife notwithstanding hers. The first ages of the Church display in all its beauty the native tendency of Christianity: and, if the same effects are nut alike visible now, it is not owing to any want of efficiency in religion itself, but to the low state of religion in the world. But the principles laid down here are applicable to all forms of service. Foster. Colossians Commentary ; JOSEPH BENSON I. There is also a real point to be made. Love which rests on such an unstable foundation cannot be firm and constant. It is therefore not a duty which had only newly devolved upon them, but its propriety reached back to the point of their conversion. ornament to themselves, and is one of those good works which What you receive from man, is for your body only: but you shall have wages for your soul also, even “the reward of an eternal inheritance [Note: See the text. Nor in the discharge of this duty are you to act in the absence of your master any otherwise than you would in his immediate presence: you are to render obedience “in singleness of heart, as unto Christ; not with eye-service, as men-pleasers, but as the servants of Christ, doing the will of God from the heart [Note: Ephesians 6:5-6. “Obedience is the mother of prosperity.”. Actually be in, be practicing. The reciprocal duties of wives and husbands. Observe, 2. Parents have much to answer for, when they produce such an effect as this on their children’s minds. Therefore, as the Church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing [Note: Ephesians 5:22-24. It is the wife"s duty to be submissive to her husband and only her husband - it is her duty because she is in Christ. Paul did not say all women should be subject to all men, only that wives should be to their own husbands. 3, end. "The exhortation should not be weakened in translation in deference to modern sensibilities (cf. Я же располагаю слова иначе: как прилично в Господе, то есть, согласно установлению Господню. Colossians is the most abbreviated of these lists, with the most instruction given to the common situation in the New Testament world of how Christian slaves should behave. “Your wives should be to you as your own flesh. in these they are not to be subject to them, but to Christ the ÷COLOSSIANS 3:18-21. Submission is the duty of wives, hypotassesthe. Moser. He requires love on the part of husbands, and that they be not bitter, because there is a danger lest they should abuse their authority in the way of tyranny. The apostle proceeds from those duties which related to them as ], 1. 3. That St. Paul, in the former part of this chapter, having laid down general exhortations, to live suitably to the gospel which the Colossians had received, comes now, in the close of the chapter, to exhort them to the practice fo particular duties in their respective places and relations, as husbands and wives, parents and children, masters and servants. Moreover, the woman was made for the man, and not the man for the Inevitably Paul was addressing the social orders of his day, and as the Colossians were mainly Gentiles, he was addressing the Gentile culture as well as Jewish. II. He begins with the duties of wives and husbands (Colossians 3:18): Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as it is fit in the Lord. Woman was created after, out of, and for man (1 Corinthians 11:8-9). I tremble for his future, and therefore try to make his: present as comfortable as possible.” “I thank you for the warning, my dear,” said her husband, “by the grace of God I will change my conduct.” From that time he became another man. Also carefully note that this "subjection" isn"t some moral consequence that all women suffer because of Eve"s sin. To obviate this evil let her remember that her husband’s dignity and her own inferiority are not to be estimated from virtues, figure, nobility, or riches; but from Divine ordination; that pride is of the devil, who, as he incited Eve, instills the same poison into her daughters. The way in which to judge of our spiritual attainments—, [Religion is a practical thing, and is intended, as we have shewn, to make us fill to advantage every relation in life. Children, obey your parents in everything, for this is pleasing in the Lord. him, that profess to be new creatures, converted persons, that so Colossians 3:18-21 Wives Submit, Husbands Love And Children Obey. Wives, submit yourselves … - Notes on the parallel passage in Ephesians 5:21-24. The injunction to children is laconic and universal. The early and biblical idea of a wife as that of a “help meet,” implies that she was to be auxiliary-second, and not principal in the household. nature, by reason of the original creation of man, and of the The wool was spun into thread by the girls, who were therefore called “spinsters”; the thread was woven by their mother, who was accordingly called the weaver or the wife; and another remnant of this old truth we discover in the word heirloom, applied to any old piece of furniture which has come down to us from our ancestors, and which, though it may be a chair or bed, shows that a loom was once the most important piece of furniture in the house. A. Hereby shall appear comely, first, to God, 1 Peter 3:4. 2. There will be need of forbearance on both sides. It has pleased God that there should be different ranks and orders of society, and that to each should be assigned appropriate duties. This spirit is grossly wrong in a Christian man to the woman who has given up all for him. Would he be kind and indulgent? 21 Fathers, [] do not embitter your … (b) Defect of love. Wives submit yourselves unto your own husbands. Foster. It is too often taken as a matter of course. It was put to the test, and the boast of the husband was: found true. The occasion of this arose from the circumstance that many believing women were united to unbelieving husbands. True, in the text it is only said, “Submit yourselves, as it is fit in the Lord:” but in the Epistle to the Ephesians he draws the very parallel that I have drawn, and shews that your duty to your husband corresponds exactly with the Church’s duty to the Lord Jesus Christ: “Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands, as unto the Lord: for the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the Head of the Church: and he is the Saviour of the body. What of the husband’s duty? (a) The internal act of the heart and the acknowledgment of the mind (Ephesians 5:33; 1 Peter 3:6). 2. So neither are ye to be. also a "decent" and becoming thing for wives to be subject to 1. PAUL APPLE. Thus unity of domestic administration was to be secured by oneness of headship. Fourthly, to all, even opposites, as being an ornament to sincerity and holiness, Titus 2:3. Wives are to cooperate with their own husbands, whether Christian or not. It is not the husband's job to force her into submission even though he might reeeaaalllly want to. But the man is in the final analysis to have the last word, with her best concerns in mind, and as a loving husband and not as a tyrant (Ephesians 5:19). is to be joined to it, not to . For some connect it thus — “Be subject in the Lord, as it is fit.” I, however, view it rather differently, — As it is fit in the Lord, that is, according to the appointment of the Lord, so that he confirms the subjection of wives by the authority of God. There can be no doubt but that many parents harden their children’s hearts against their authority in the first instance, and ultimately against the authority of God himself, purely by the tyranny which they exercise, and by the continual irritations which they occasion [Note: That is an humiliating view which the Apostle gives of parents, but, alas! ], [Both in the text, and in the parallel passage in the Epistle to the Ephesians, there is a restraint laid on parents with regard to the exercise of their authority: it is not to be attended with harshness or severity, “lest they provoke their children to anger, and discourage them” from attempting to fulfil their duty, under the idea, that, whatever efforts they may use to please their parents, it will he a hopeless task. 18. Fit in the Lord—In their relation as Christians, for in a Christian marriage the husband is the divinely ordained head of the wife. (The word ‘own’ is to be omitted; it was inserted to conform with the parallel passage.) ].” Act then agreeably to this exalted view of your station. But the wife is not a slave to do the bidding of a taskmaster, losing in a mechanical obedience the sense of responsibility. other; as husbands and wives, parents and children, masters and One of the company thus addressed the lady, “Madam, your civility fills us with surprise. “And you,” said the prince, addressing his wife, “what think you of Cyrus?” “I did not observe him,” she replied. (p. 252). Colossians 3, Coffman Commentaries on the Bible, One of over 110 Bible commentaries freely available, this commentary, by the leading authority in the Church of Christ, presents a verse level look at the Bible. 15 And let the peace of God rule in your hearts, to the which also ye are called in one body; and be ye thankful. 15:27, 28; Еф. We are persuaded that a similar plan ought to be adopted by every minister of Christ. Wives, be subject to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord. One duty is prescribed here for one member of each of the three family groups, and varying forms of another for the other. Sed liberum arbitrium, pro quo tantopere contenditur, viri amiserunt, uxores arripuerunt, saith an author. ].” What an elevated view does this give of your situation and employments! She, however, returned nothing but kindness, constantly manifesting an anxiety to promote my comfort and happiness; and it was her amiable conduct, when suffering ill treatment from me, that first sent the arrows of conviction to my soul.” (N. Y. The position of wives as being ‘under their husbands’ is not only taught but elsewhere stressed theologically in Scripture (1 Corinthians 11:3; 1 Corinthians 11:7-9; Ephesians 5:23; 1 Timothy 2:11-14; Genesis 2:18; Genesis 2:21-23). 18. (3:18 - 4:1) Павел рассуждает о взаимоотношениях нового человека с другими людьми. "BE IN"-i.e. II. the similar exhortation, with the basis of it, in Ephesians 5:22-24 : ‘The husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the Head of the Church.’ The Bible everywhere recognizes the relation as of this character (from Genesis 2:18-24 to Revelation 22:17). edification, and the glory of God, to such as concerned them in She is the one that brings this to pass. In handling these it were superfluous to take up many words, inasmuch as I have already stated in the Epistle to the Ephesians (457) almost everything that was necessary. 18 Wives, submit yourselves to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord. 1. The apostle proceeds from those duties which related to them as church members one towards another, for their mutual good and edification, and the glory of God, to such as concerned them in their own houses and families, as in a natural relation to each other; as husbands and wives, parents and children, masters and servants; showing hereby, that the Gospel does not at all break in upon, but establishes the duties of common and civil life. It is the same word which is used to express our duty to magistrates ( Romans 13:1 , Let every soul be subject to the higher powers ), and … As it is fit in the Lord - God commands it; and it is both proper and decent. 1. as it is fit in the Lord; Before our great factories arose, one of the great employments in every house was the fabrication of clothing; every family made its own. This is clear, but what follows is of doubtful signification — as it is fit in the Lord. But the wife craves for love, and a tone of tenderness will make her soul brighten for days amid the manifold cares of home. Observe also, The qualification and manner of this subjection, as it is fit in the Lord, that is, in all lawful things, and in obedience to the Lord's commands, and not in anything contrary to his will. [See. ] Adopting a different punctuation, many, from Chrysostom to Winer and Schrader, join ἐν κυρίῳ to the verb ὑποτάσσεσθε, as if the meaning were—“be submissive in the Lord.” The order of the words seems to forbid such an exegesis, and ἐν κυρίῳ is united by its position to ἀνῆκευ—“as is fitting in the Lord.” In the imperfect form or time of the verb is implied, according to Winer, an appropriate hint that it had not been so with them at all times. I persecuted and abused her because of her religion. 5:19–6:9 (см. Colossians 3:18-20 “Wives, submit to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord. servants; showing hereby, that the Gospel does not at all break Convinced of this, we enter with great pleasure on the consideration of our relative duties; that is, of the duties. Colossians 3:18… In the family, Christianity has signally displayed its power of refining, ennobling and sanctifying earthly relationships. And when a woman says, "I will joyfully do that Lord", now that is a subjection that is "fitting" for someone who claims to be a Christian. The translation then is—“as it should be in the Lord.” This obligation of submission commenced with their union to the Lord, sprang out of it, and had not yet been fully discharged. This effect we see in Christ’s love toward His Church (Matthew 28:20). The injunction has been fully considered under Ephesians 5:25-33, where it is enforced by a special argument, and a tender analogy derived from the conjugal relation of Christ and His church. The duty of the husband. (b) When things pertaining to her dignity or necessity are denied. 20 Children, obey your parents in everything, for this pleases the Lord. This definitely goes against some of the current thinking of the world, but then we aren"t subject to the worlds false teaching. Было бы излишне рассматривать эти служение долго, коль скоро в комментарии на Послание к Ефесянам мы уже сказали все необходимое. Some homes, alas, are in a state of chronic conflict. As it is fit — Both in regard of God’s command, and the evil that would arise from the neglect of this duty; in the Lord — In obedience to the Lord, and in all lawful things. The man who does this seeks not a wife but a money porter, and after he has laid his claws on the money, he regards not of a straw the porter. Remember the context of the following text is doing all as unto the Lord! She studies not to please her husband who is displeased with him. ], [As your servants are to put you in the place of Christ, so are you to be as in the place of Christ to them: and exactly such a muster as he, if in your place, would be, such are ye to be to those who are under your command. These servants are slaves. It is merely the recognition of an authority which is essential to social and domestic order and welfare. But so thought not the Apostle Paul On the contrary, in those two epistles (to the Ephesians, and Colossians) in which he enters most deeply into the mysteries of Christianity, he enlarges most fully on the relative duties. (a) Pride, which makes the wife disesteem her husband as unworthy to command her. Now I grant that there are many who discharge in a most commendable manner their relative duties, whilst yet they have no regard for God in their hearts. Moreover, the woman was made for the man, and not the man for the woman; add to this, that the woman was in the transgression, and the means of the fall of man, which gave a fresh reason for, and made the obligation to subjection to him the stronger: and it is also a "decent" and becoming thing for wives to be subject to their husbands; for as it is giving honour to them, it is a real ornament to themselves, and is one of those good works which women professing godliness should adorn themselves with; and makes more comely and beautiful than broidered hair; gold, pearls, or costly array, yea, than their natural favour and beauty: it is what is fitting "in the Lord": it is what he requires, not only what the law of God requires, see 1 Corinthians 14:34 and which was enjoined originally, see Genesis 3:16 and was charged as a duty under the legal dispensation; but is what is commanded by Christ under the Gospel dispensation, and is to be observed by all those that are "in" him, that profess to be new creatures, converted persons, that so the word of God be not blasphemed, and the enemy have no occasion to reproach, see Titus 2:5 though this phrase may also be considered as a restriction and limitation of this subjection; that though it reaches to all things, yet only to such as are agreeable to the will of the Lord, and not contrary to the Gospel of Christ; for in these they are not to be subject to them, but to Christ the Lord; but in all other things they are, even as the church is subject to Christ: and when this is the case, such subjection is regarded by Christ as if it was done to himself; and indeed his honour and glory should be the governing view in it; see Ephesians 5:22. The emphasis is on serving the other person (Philippians 2:3-4). Wives, Submit to Your Husbands (3:18) Let's look at Paul's first brief instruction: "Wives, submit to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord." No woman has the duty of a wife to perform but she who is one, and no man has the duty of a husband to perform but he who is married. “Not observe him!” exclaimed her husband; “upon whom, then, was your attention fixed?” “Upon that dear and generous man,” she replied, “who declared his readiness to purchase my liberty at the expense of his life.” (Christian Age. Colossians 3:18 Context. Masters, give unto your servants that which is just and equal; knowing that ye also have a Master in heaven. (c) When she is treated with cruelty. Wives, submit yourselves] Inferiors are ordered before superiors to teach them to do duty before they expect it. 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